Nanny for the first time
Having your first Nanny will be a strange
experience. You may feel guilty for leaving your
child or even jealous of someone else looking
after them but if you handle it right it can
also be a very happy situation.
Who to employ
It is not a good idea to employ an inexperienced
nanny as your first nanny, this is particularly
important if you are not going to be around
during the day to supervise. You will need
someone you can rely on and can trust to cope
with any situation and this is where someone
with experience will be most suitable. A more
experienced and qualified nanny may require a
larger salary than someone with little or no
experience but it will be worth the investment
since they should be able to work autonomously.
With good communication all your worries about
letting a stranger look after your child should
It's a good idea to have a certain time each
week or fortnight where you and your nanny can
talk (if possible without older children around
who can understand what you are discussing).
Being in a relaxed atmosphere and not being
rushed always helps. Sit down, have a cup of tea
and talk, maybe start off with the things the
child has been doing. Good nannies love telling
you about funny things your child has said and
done, the progress they have made and if
anything seems to be worrying them (e.g. If they
have begun not wanting to go to school or if
their eating or sleeping habits have changed).
This will also give you the opportunity to catch
up on the things you have missed whilst being at
Always bring up anything that's bothering you,
e.g. If plates are always left in the sink when
they go off duty, or if you feel that they
should be taking your child out more often. Try
to say your comment in a positive way and avoid
Always thank your nanny for doing the little
things, like taking out the bins, putting the
bottles in the bottle bank, or tidying the
child's bedroom after a very messy weekend, as
it makes them feel appreciated and they are more
likely to keep on doing a good job. If your
nanny has helped with a child's party or worked
extra hard it is always nice to give them a
small bonus just to say thank you.
leave your nanny
It is a good idea to leave your nanny a list of
emergency phone numbers and address's, even if
you're in the house most of the day. This list
- The child's doctor and dentist.
child's school, their teacher's name and
- Their activity class's.
- The local
- The local police station.
direct line work number.
- Local friends and
- The vets number if you have any
It is also a good idea to write down:
- School times.
- Activity times.
- If the
children have any allergies, etc.
- The child's
favourite foods and what they won't or you don't
want them to eat.
The Nanny's first day
It is best if you can stay with your nanny for
the first day or part of the day, this way the
child can become used to them whilst you are
around. It is a good idea if you can:
- Introduce the nanny to the child's teacher,
your local friends and neighbours, etc.
them how to work the washing machine, tumble
dryer, dish washer, oven, microwave, etc. •Show
them where the first aid box is.
- Show them
where the gas, water and electric cut-offs are
for emergencies and also when the meter reader's
- Discuss the child's routine, bed times,
feeding, activities, bathing, etc.
- Go through
the duties you wish them to do (these should not
be different from what you discussed at the
interview) and when you want them to baby-sit,
- House rules, e.g., locking doors and
setting alarms when they go out, having people
Do's and Don'ts - The Do's....
- Leave your nanny a kitty so they can pay for
playgroups, activities and extra food, etc. and
top this up frequently.
- Discuss problems
straight away. Don't let it carry on for a long
period as it will be harder for them to change.
- Set suitable standards and ensure that these
- Let them know if any repair people are
expected, what they are going to do and what
time they are coming.
- Remember that your nanny
has her own life, don't expect them to baby-sit
at a few hours notice.
- Pay them on time and
review their salary on a regular basis.
- Appreciate your nanny, remember a good nanny is
hard to find.
- Ring every few hours to check how every
thing is going, as they will feel that you don't
- Assume they will know what you want
doing and how to do it.
- Be late home, or if you
are going to be, ring and let them know.
that your child will get more attached to your
nanny than to you. Children always know who
their parents are and if your child likes being
with the nanny be reassured that they
are happy with the situation. If you
need further information, please email